How to Advance Your Soft Skills as a Business Leader

By Ryan Ayers

Most business leaders understand that soft skills play an essential role in effectively leading others. Without having a strong command of key soft skills, you may experience difficulty in getting others to follow your advice and trust your intentions. The question begs then how to advance your soft skills so that you can become more intentional, a passionate and respected leader who others will want to follow.

When setting out to improve your soft skills you want to have a clear understanding of what those soft skills are, identify ways to improve them and then practice them.

What Are Soft Skills?

Soft skills include attributes and personality traits that help employees interact with others and succeed in the workplace. Soft skills determine how effectively you’re able to interact with others and how you approach your work.

Some examples of soft skills include communication, teamwork, and problem-solving. Believe it or not, these are some of the key MBA skills that employers look for when hiring recent graduates.

Soft skills don’t only make important business skills, they’re incredibly powerful in other fields as well. Whether one is looking to develop advanced nursing skills, more effectiveness as a teacher, or excellence in any other field, soft skills are essential. By cultivating these types of skills, you’ll be able to develop into a better and more capable leader in any field or industry.

Ways to Improve Your Soft Skills

While you may be convinced that it’s time to start advancing your soft skills, you might feel like you don’t know where to start. Luckily, there are some key practices you can engage in to start developing these skills immediately. Here are some effective ways to start developing your soft skills as a business leader.

#1 Study Others and Practice Empathy

One of the best ways to improve the way you communicate and interact with others is by gaining a deeper understanding of them. In order to understand others, it can help to study how they act and practice putting yourself in their shoes. If you gain a clearer understanding of what motivates others, you’ll be able to better see things from their perspectives.

Being able to see things from the perspectives of others will help you in a myriad of impactful ways. It will allow you to understand what you need to show them to gain their trust along with how you need to explain things to get them to follow your lead.

Accordingly, any leader — no matter what field they’re in — can improve their soft skills and improve their ability to lead by studying others and practicing empathy.

#2 Change How You Communicate with Each Individual

Different individuals have different styles of communication. Similarly, different individuals will respond differently to varying styles of communication. By being aware of this fact, you have the ability to determine how you can most effectively communicate with those around you. When it comes to leading a team or organization, being able to communicate effectively with each individual you interact with will help you gain the trust and respect of your colleagues.

While it’s important to have your own distinct communication style as a leader, changing the nuances of how you communicate with specific individuals can make you more effective as a communicator.

For example, you may have an employee who is nervous by nature and is made uncomfortable by small talk. Understanding this and making it a point to skip the small talk and be direct can make interactions more effective for both parties. Accordingly, becoming mindful of how you communicate with different individuals can help you improve your management skills and improve as a business leader.

#3 Practice Solving Problems

Problem-solving is an incredibly powerful skill — especially in business. Having highly developed problem-solving abilities is typically a hallmark amongst the most renowned and effective leaders. Though solving problems and overcoming problems may not seem fun, it’s the most effective way to develop as a problem solver.

As such, you can benefit from taking time every day to think about solutions to organizational problems — whether they are your responsibility or not.

One beneficial effect that results from habitually practicing problem-solving is less stress associated with challenges. Rather than feeling overwhelmed by complex problems, you’ll feel capable and prepared to solve them. This will help you stay calm while under pressure and more capable of ideating effectively and developing salient solutions to problems.

Given the many benefits that come from being an adroit problem-solver, practicing your ability to solve problems is one of the most effective ways you can advance your soft skills as a leader.

Soft skills are an essential part of any effective business leader’s toolbox. Without a strong command of soft skills, leaders face the threat of being ineffective communicators that are unequipped to overcome serious challenges.

Thankfully, no matter who you are, you have the ability to grow as a business leader by advancing your soft skills. By engaging in a few key practices, you’ll be able to hone your soft skills, gain confidence in your abilities, and lead with excellence.

About the Author

Ryan Ayers has consulted a number of Fortune 500 companies within multiple industries including information technology, business, and project management. After earning his MBA in 2010, Ayers also began working with start-up companies and aspiring entrepreneurs, with a keen focus on project management and business development.

February 18, 2020February 18, 2020 Linky

5 Practical Steps to Improve your Self-awareness

by Dr Eben van Blerk

Prior articles in the Emotional Intelligence series:

Emotional intelligence has become one of the top predictors of success in life, in the office and at home. Emotional intelligence can be learnt and can be improved over time as we continue to learn from our daily experiences in life. Improving your emotional intelligence will probably be one of the most difficult personal challenges. You will not become more emotionally intelligent without practicing these skills. You have to believe there is room for improvement in managing your own emotions. Developing emotional intelligence skills is not easy. It requires commitment to the cause, ongoing hard work, persistence and acute self-awareness.

Lack of Self-awareness

How do you know you lack self-awareness? Some of the tell-tale signs of a lack of self-awareness may be as follows:

· You are not able to easily read a room and pick up emotional signals

· You find it difficult to put yourself in the shoes of others

· You do not know how you come across to others (and you do not care)

· You do not know who you are and how your behaviour impacts others

· You find it difficult to admit and take responsibility for your mistakes

· You do not react well to feedback and often become defensive

· You often do not know what you are feeling and why you are feeling that way

Where to start

Where does one start? First you have to get to know yourself in order to start understanding how you are coming across and when and how to manage your emotions. Self-awareness is the basis of our relationships with others. Once you have the self-awareness to know when and how to manage your emotions, you can develop the empathy to put yourself in the shoes of others and truly understand their feelings. This will be the ideal position to build and manage interpersonal relationships, manage conflict and effectively collaborate with others. The problem is often people do not know how to develop their self-awareness.

Steps to develop self-awareness

#1 Decide to change

You have to start this journey of self-development because you want to and because you are convinced that there is room for developing your self-awareness. Developing these skills does not happen overnight. If you are not committed and dedicated it will take longer and in all probability lead to frustration with very little personal growth.

#2 Build an emotional vocabulary

Before you can learn the skill to manage your emotions, you need to know what you are feeling. Compile a list of feeling words (emotions) and use the list to label emotions as you experience them. Examples are angry, hurt, inferior, jealous, irritated, happy, frustrated, insecure, anxious, motivated and concerned. Extend the list as you learn to identify your feelings and expand your emotional vocabulary. When you are able to name your feelings, it is easier to start managing your emotions that lead to unproductive behaviour and negatively impact others.

#3 Get to know your personality

Once you have built a level of emotional vocabulary, you need to know why you are experiencing the emotions you listed. This will help to manage your emotions. Get to know your personality. An easy way is to complete some of the many free personality tests on the internet. This will provide you with a good overview to start. Also, start observing yourself in the moment, during happy times and during conflict. What are you feeling in the situation and why are you feeling that way? How do you respond in the situation and how does your body respond? Additional to a personality test, ask others for feedback on how you come across.

#4 Ask for feedback

Ask family members, your spouse, colleagues and friends with whom you have a trusting relationship to give you feedback on how you come across. Ask for honest feedback on what they think of you and your behaviour. How they experience you when you are on top of the world as well as in the moments you are not that proud of? Compare your self-perception with your reputation with your colleagues and your circle of friends. Take their feedback to heart. Reflect and use their feedback as part of your development journey. Continue to ask for specific feedback as you work on specific development areas.

#5 Write your own eulogy

The idea of writing your own eulogy may seem grim and make you uncomfortable initially. This could however provide you with valuable insight to live a more fulfilled life. Take time to reflect on your life. Consider how much you mean to other people, what you do for others and what kind of person you are. Think of what have you accomplished thus far in your life. What will you say about yourself if you had to deliver the eulogy? What do you think others will say? Consider what you want to be remembered for and what you want people to feel and say about you after your passing.

Improved self-awareness

Now that you understand self-awareness better and you have the steps to improve your self-awareness, it becomes easier to commit to growing your emotional intelligence. You will find that improved self-awareness will provide a better understanding of your motives, behaviour and thinking. This will enable you to start making informed choices towards healthy and productive relationships with others.

About the Author:

Eben van Blerk, a Doctor of Technology, has more than 25 years’ practical team work experience. He has published articles and book chapters on leadership and emotional intelligence in local and international publications.

Contact him on LinkedIn if you need a speaker or workshop facilitator on emotional intelligence for your next team engagement. His emotional intelligence talks and programmes are popular in the corporate and private sector. It will equip your team with knowledge and tools for improved communication, effective conflict handling and managing their emotions towards a more productive and fulfilled business and personal life.

August 17, 2017February 14, 2022 Linky

10 Leadership Lessons from Extreme Environments

By Linky van der Merwe

Do you know some-one who climbed the Seven Summits (highest peak on each continent) and skied to both the North and South Poles? Meet Alison Levine, a small person with a big heart for adventure. And not just any adventure, but extreme adventure that earned her the title of achieving the “Adventure Grand Slam”.

After listening to Alison Levine as keynote speaker at the PMXPO2017 I bought her book: “On the edge: Leadership lessons from Mount Everest and other extreme environments.

Here are 10 leadership lessons from her book that can be applied to projects.

#1 Approach to leadership

Alison starts off by saying that the development of yourself as a leader should be a deliberate, conscious process. People are not born leaders. It’s a ‘muscle that needs to be built.

Leadership is an attitude. Alison believes that we all need to be better leaders. If we put effort into that, we can have much positive influence on the people around us. I think this is especially true on projects. Empower the team to think and act like a leader. This means that we need to help them hone their skills, their knowledge and encourage them to think for themselves and to make critical decisions without always requiring input. Team members need to be able to carry on with the work, even if the leader becomes ill or is on leave.

One way to help develop leadership skills in others is to give them greater responsibility to grow themselves as leaders. This will make the whole team more effective. Developing your own skills and the skill of others should be a never-ending process.

#2 Mentors

Engage with others who are more skilled than you are and learn from the best. Find mentors in your organization, people with experience and people you look up to.

#3 Go backward to go forward

The way Mount Everest is climbed is that climbers start at base camp and go up to Camp 1, then come back. Next they go up to Camp 1 and the following day to Camp 2. Then they go back to basecamp. Then they go up to Camp 3 only to come back down again. Then they go all the way up to Camp 4, sleep over and when the weather allows, they ascend to the top.

Her lesson from this is that there’s real value in going back to your starting point to regroup, to reposition yourself to be stronger before you can ascend to the next level. Even great athletes and sport stars focus on the fundamentals over and over again, by doing the same drills, not because they haven’t mastered it, but because repetition builds strength and enhances agility.

Therefore, reward and encourage progress in all forms, not just the obvious ones.

#4 Conflict management

On every project there will be conflict at some point making it a predictable component of group dynamics. It can be healthy to as it brings different perspectives. Conflict only becomes dangerous when it is unresolved.

It’s important to bring conflict out into the open. This is where communication is key. It’s essential to make team members feel valued and that his or her opinion matters.

#5 High Performance Teams

All women team to Everest — Source: Road & Travel Magazine

Alison shares an important insight on putting together a high-performing team. You want people who are good at what they do and who know that they’re good as that gives them confidence. This is called performance ego.

Another type of ego you want is team ego. A group is only a team when every member of the group cares as much about helping the other members as they care about helping themselves.

I have seen this on multiple projects before where a high-performing team contributes to hugely successful projects. When you put a team together, you need to look for:

Experience
Expertise
Ego

#6 Relationships and Networking

Developing strong relationships is critical to success. As a project leader you need to take the time and effort to connect with people at every stage of your career. Find people who will rally around you, encourage you and support. Attend those conferences and networking events; you never know which connections will lead to more success in future.

#7 Weak links

The way you deal with the weak link on your team often means the difference between success and failure. When you have to work with people who are as good as you are, those who can’t perform as well, or who don’t match your skills.

To compensate for a weakness is about leveraging hidden attributes in innovative ways that can move you and your team forward. As a leader you need to help every team member to become productive so that everyone on the team benefits.

#8 Build Trust and Loyalty

Never underestimate the importance of treating other with respect and kindness. Also take the time to get to know the people on your team as individuals. Get to know them on a deeper level. That will form strong bonds and people will know they matter.

Each person needs a different approach when it comes to helping them perform at their best. The more information you uncover, the more influence you can have as a leader. You need to adjust your coaching style based on the needs of your team.

The more dedicated you are to your team, the harder they will work for you and for one another.

#9 Complacency

Following the status quo, could be a mistake that businesses, teams fall prey to. Different situations call for different actions. As a leader you need to evaluate all the circumstances in order to know what you best move is.

Complacency can be characterized by not preparing, not making a move, not moving fast enough or not being agile enough.

If you’re busy with your 10^th or 50^th project, you still need to be alert, prepared and agile.

#10 Embrace your Failures

As leaders we need to own our failures. It’s important to learn from them as that is what really makes us grow as leaders. When we achieve something that we have worked hard for, we need to take a moment to reflect on it.

For many people it’s easier to avoid the risks of failure, unless we have failed before. Something about surviving past setbacks that increases our willingness to risk again.

If you’d like to read a book filled with adventure stories and lessons, don’t miss out on this exciting book:
On the Edge: Leadership Lessons from Mount Everest and Other Extreme Environments

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