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How to Advance Your Soft Skills as a Business Leader
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How to Advance Your Soft Skills as a Business Leader

By Ryan Ayers

Most business leaders understand that soft skills play an essential role in effectively leading others. Without having a strong command of key soft skills, you may experience difficulty in getting others to follow your advice and trust your intentions. The question begs then how to advance your soft skills so that you can become more intentional, a passionate and respected leader who others will want to follow.

When setting out to improve your soft skills you want to have a clear understanding of what those soft skills are, identify ways to improve them and then practice them.

What Are Soft Skills?

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Soft skills include attributes and personality traits that help employees interact with others and succeed in the workplace. Soft skills determine how effectively you’re able to interact with others and how you approach your work.

Some examples of soft skills include communication, teamwork, and problem-solving. Believe it or not, these are some of the key MBA skills that employers look for when hiring recent graduates.

Soft skills don’t only make important business skills, they’re incredibly powerful in other fields as well. Whether one is looking to develop advanced nursing skills, more effectiveness as a teacher, or excellence in any other field, soft skills are essential. By cultivating these types of skills, you’ll be able to develop into a better and more capable leader in any field or industry.

Ways to Improve Your Soft Skills

While you may be convinced that it’s time to start advancing your soft skills, you might feel like you don’t know where to start. Luckily, there are some key practices you can engage in to start developing these skills immediately. Here are some effective ways to start developing your soft skills as a business leader.

#1 Study Others and Practice Empathy

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One of the best ways to improve the way you communicate and interact with others is by gaining a deeper understanding of them. In order to understand others, it can help to study how they act and practice putting yourself in their shoes. If you gain a clearer understanding of what motivates others, you’ll be able to better see things from their perspectives.

Being able to see things from the perspectives of others will help you in a myriad of impactful ways. It will allow you to understand what you need to show them to gain their trust along with how you need to explain things to get them to follow your lead.

Accordingly, any leader — no matter what field they’re in — can improve their soft skills and improve their ability to lead by studying others and practicing empathy.

#2 Change How You Communicate with Each Individual

Different individuals have different styles of communication. Similarly, different individuals will respond differently to varying styles of communication. By being aware of this fact, you have the ability to determine how you can most effectively communicate with those around you. When it comes to leading a team or organization, being able to communicate effectively with each individual you interact with will help you gain the trust and respect of your colleagues.

While it’s important to have your own distinct communication style as a leader, changing the nuances of how you communicate with specific individuals can make you more effective as a communicator.

For example, you may have an employee who is nervous by nature and is made uncomfortable by small talk. Understanding this and making it a point to skip the small talk and be direct can make interactions more effective for both parties. Accordingly, becoming mindful of how you communicate with different individuals can help you improve your management skills and improve as a business leader.

#3 Practice Solving Problems

Problem-solving is an incredibly powerful skill — especially in business. Having highly developed problem-solving abilities is typically a hallmark amongst the most renowned and effective leaders. Though solving problems and overcoming problems may not seem fun, it’s the most effective way to develop as a problem solver.

As such, you can benefit from taking time every day to think about solutions to organizational problems — whether they are your responsibility or not.

One beneficial effect that results from habitually practicing problem-solving is less stress associated with challenges. Rather than feeling overwhelmed by complex problems, you’ll feel capable and prepared to solve them. This will help you stay calm while under pressure and more capable of ideating effectively and developing salient solutions to problems.

Given the many benefits that come from being an adroit problem-solver, practicing your ability to solve problems is one of the most effective ways you can advance your soft skills as a leader.

Soft skills are an essential part of any effective business leader’s toolbox. Without a strong command of soft skills, leaders face the threat of being ineffective communicators that are unequipped to overcome serious challenges.

Thankfully, no matter who you are, you have the ability to grow as a business leader by advancing your soft skills. By engaging in a few key practices, you’ll be able to hone your soft skills, gain confidence in your abilities, and lead with excellence.

About the Author

Ryan Ayers

Ryan Ayers has consulted a number of Fortune 500 companies within multiple industries including information technology, business, and project management. After earning his MBA in 2010, Ayers also began working with start-up companies and aspiring entrepreneurs, with a keen focus on project management and business development.

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Emotional Intelligence: A Quick Guide to Empathy

A quick guide to Empathy

By Dr Eben van Blerk

Most of us from time to time say something (or do not say something) that we regret. Our intentions were good but our behaviour did not match up. Our good intentions were hijacked by our emotions. Often, this is stressful for us and for others. This is where our emotional intelligence (EI) and specifically empathy can assist us to manage our emotions in order to live our good intentions.

What is Empathy?

Empathy is the ability to see a situation from the perspective of others. It is understanding the feelings and thoughts of others as they experience the situation and putting yourself in their shoes.

Empathy means being there for someone, listening to them and having a sincere interest in their feelings and perspective. It is an honest and practical demonstration of their importance to you. Empathy is about connecting emotionally. In the process, we build bonds that often last a lifetime.

Lack of empathy

Why are we considering empathy? A lack of empathy affects the bottom line in companies. It leads to morale problems, disengaged employees, poor conflict handling and resulting loss of profit. Customers experiencing a lack of empathy leave. They tell everyone willing to listen about their bad experience and encourage them not to do business with you anymore. By not being empathetic, you may be seen as not caring, aloof, not respecting others and insensitive to their feelings. This may trigger feelings of anger and resentment leading to broken relationships on a business and social level. Sometimes, when your name is mentioned years later, these feelings are rekindled.

Benefits of having more empathy

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Empathy helps to build long lasting trusting relationships. Seeing the world from the perspective of others helps you to act appropriately in any given situation. When you show empathy, the other person feels valued, respected and listened to. This will connect you to them emotionally. People will feel drawn to you and stay by your side. This will result in give-and-take behaviour where they will be more likely to care, listen, help and support you as well.

Empathy self-test

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Consider the following statements:

  1. Yes/No: I sometimes struggle to understand what someone else is feeling and what they might be thinking under their current circumstances.
  2. Yes/No: I find it difficult to see things from the perspective of others or put myself in their shoes.
  3. Yes/No: Sometimes, I am not able to feel with the other person.
  4. Yes/No: I often fail to assure others that I am there for them and that they are not alone.
  5. Yes/No: I am indifferent to people dealing with emotional anguish, loss and sadness.

If you answered yes to some of the above questions, you may benefit from further developing your empathy.

10 Tips to improve your empathy

  1. Actively listen and pay attention to the other person in a conversation without being judgemental.
  2. Focus on the non-verbal cues to understand the emotions behind what is being said.
  3. Ensure that your body language show that you are interested in the other person’s point of view and that you want to listen (keep eye contact and do not look at your phone).
  4. Try to understand the other person’s perspective and their reasoning behind it. Ask sincere questions for clarification.
  5. Imagine yourself in their situation and how they might be feeling.
  6. Watch a conversation from a distance. Try to identify what the participants are feeling
  7. Think about friends or colleagues that in your opinion are empathetic. What do they do that makes you feel this way?
  8. Make a list of what you can do to make people you have contact with on a daily basis feel more valued and respected.
  9. Always be thankful and kind.
  10. Show gratitude.
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Empathy can be further developed. You must however be willing to consider the perspective of others, even if you do not agree with their view of the world. Empathy does not only benefit others. As we develop our empathy, we but broaden our perspective of the world.

This assists us in responding more appropriate in the situation when dealing with life on a daily basis. Especially in trying times and crisis, empathy will pull us through. It will help to bind us together as a team. As a responsible member of the larger community we live and work in, we will do our part and come out stronger in the end.

Prior articles in the Emotional Intelligence series:

  1. What Emotional Intelligence (EQ) really means and how it can be a good predictor of success
  2. 7 Misconceptions about Emotional Intelligence
  3. 5 Practical steps to improve your Self-awareness

About the Author

Dr Eben van Blerk

Eben holds a Doctor of Technology degree from the Cape Peninsula University of Technology, as well as an MBA degree from Stellenbosch University. He is an experienced emotional intelligence author and speaker. In addition to presenting emotional intelligence talks and facilitating emotional intelligence workshops, Eben has published articles and book chapters on leadership and emotional intelligence in local and international publications.

Contact him on LinkedIn if you need a speaker or workshop facilitator on emotional intelligence for your next team engagement.